Learning To Praise Your Partner
In the beginning stages of a new relationship we normally talk about all the good qualities our partner has. The love is new and we can never say enough nice stuff about them. Often we don’t know when to shut up, driving our friends crazy with the information overload.
Wouldn’t it be great if things could remain that way? Well we all know that things change. Some good changes happen and some bag changes happen.
Let’s fast forward six months or even a year. Notice any changes? Chances are an outside observer wouldn’t even know we’re talking about the same person. What happened to all those wonder qualities we used to rant and rave about? They’ve turned into complaints; and our friends are rapidly becoming as tired of them as they did about the good things.
Disappointment happens in almost all relationships. You’ll get hurt, or you’ll hurt someone and it may even reach a point that you just want to call it quits. If you’re close to that point how about turning things around? Instead of only complaining, make it a point to talk up the good things about your partner.
Balance in life is truly important. It is important to be able to vent to someone about things and event tell them when you are mad at them, but it is also important to say good things about someone as well. Too much either way may not be healthy for the relationship and may create an imbalance for growth. The wrong balance would allow you to lose them as well.
When talking to your friends about your partner it’s important to know when to share and how much to share. Once it’s been said, it can’t be unsaid, so before you decide to share, take a moment and think about what’s really bothering you.
This helps in a couple of ways. First, it allows you to get insight before talking to your mate or anyone else. I believe it is important to trust your own voice or gut in a situation. If after the time of inward thinking you still feel confused, then it may be necessary to talk to someone.
Remember though to balance the positive and the complaints. Every side has two stories and giving the person that’s listening a balanced view of things allows them to give you informed advice. You never know, they might even be able to point out some positives that you overlooked. After all, you started dating this person for a reason right?